The arguing against people who say “IT CHEAPENS THEIR BOND” are referring to Caithe and Faolain.
Two female characters were canonically banging and are currently separated because plot happened.
I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that people just don’t fucking see it and will actively argue against it having happened.
"You used to enjoy our little games of make-believe."
"You belong here, with me.”
"I am not some rat in your maze, we were entwined!"
"She was the sun to my stars."
[You’re just a vision of Caithe’s lover.]
But no, no, there was totally nothing romantic/sexual between them because “lovers” actually just means “cousins” right?
Wait. Wait, wait. Caithe and Faolain. You’re talking about the Caithe and Faolain, who the developers told us were lovers back before Faolain was even revealed? And people are still denying that there’s anything between them?
I’m… not actually surprised. Over in the GKC fandom, one lady wrote another a love letter and they agreed to go on a date, and people were still insisting that no, this is just how heterosexual girls are!
You know what. Caithe/Faolain is messed up. There’s no getting around that—Faolain literally poisons Caithe in an attempt to coerce her into being with her again, and she’s determined to break her down bit by bit and make her into something she can never come back from. And Caithe, she’s her own special brand of fucked up. But the thing that cheapens their bond? Not the abuse, not the manipulation. The fact that they’re banging, apparently.
I don’t even know how to respond to this sort of attitude anymore. No matter what’s shoved into people’s faces, they’ll still deny it outright and remind you that, hey, being queer erases any meaning in relationships. To them, being queer is purely a sexual act. They can’t stop for a fucking minute and comprehend how you can have room for a multitude of feelings in your brain and chest cavity that don’t begin and end at orgasms.
It’s sad that people insist on denying things that are blatantly obvious, even though denying the way things are changes absolutely nothing. There was a blogpost about GW2 as well from someone requesting that there be an option to turn the gay relationships ‘off’, since they didn’t want to be confronted with them while playing. It resulted in a bucketloads of sassy comments replying how you can’t turn gay off in daily life either, but the point remains that people view it as just that - something you can turn off, something you can shield your eyes from so that it will stop existing.
Now don’t get me wrong, in my opinion everyone should love and believe whatever they want. In the case of Caithe and Faolain it just saddens me because people are just missing out on a lovestory of a purity you don’t often see. Yes, it’s an abusive and unhealthy relationship, and yes, it has caused them more suffering than happiness at this point, but then if you look at their personalities it makes it all the more interesting.
The fact remains that these two creatures found a love that ran so deep that it has replaced whatever essence of themselves there was and it was substituted with each other. Throughout the game you find these tiny hints of how they are still, even after all this time, constantly on each others’ minds, and even the very mention of a name can cause an emotional rollercoaster in either of them.
'You're the one Grand Duchess Faolain always talks about!'
'Speak her name again, and I will cut it from your tongue.' - Caithe, from the personal storyline A Good Work Spoiled
For Faolain especially, ever since she lost the ‘guidelines’ of the Dream and Ventari, Caithe has become an obsession that is more important to her than herself. While Caithe chased her Dream and built her life, Faolain just hid in her shadow and watched, because anything is better than being separated from her lover. (Seriously, didn’t she have anything else to do during Edge of Destiny?) And even though Caithe keeps on telling herself and others it’s over, she has become all Nightmare except in name, and we see in the level 50 story that it would not take much for her to just finally give in to what she still feels, no matter what.
I won’t deny that their relationship is not one you should model your own after. But the fact that you can love one so much, that your own being becomes utterly incomplete without that person, is love in its most twisted, most warped, and perhaps purest form.
It’s like Ree Soesbee said. It’s not about gender, it’s about love.
'Your heart belongs to me,' - Faolain, in Edge of Destiny